One thing I put in to my plans this week was to re-think how I interact with students who are having difficulties. It is soooooo easy to get into a power struggle. Who hasn't been pulled in to one? Even when you are well read, trained, etc. there are days in which it is almost impossible to 100% avoid them.
The strategy that I am using with students this week to avoid the pratfalls of student confrontations is actually quite simple:
"I heard you, and I responded."
This motto was the result of a Facebook post I read that had a link to an article on parenting. In the article titled Child Nagging and Negotiating the statement was:
"Asked and Answered". I put my spin on this to step back and think before I respond with too much dialogue.
I tend to do this better with autistic kids…those who need to be around less talking to be successful. Why haven't I done this in the past??? Oy, is this a lightbulb moment or what?
Now, I will try to take my own advice and say less when I know that doing otherwise will most certainly have negative effects.